Some people find making friends a lot easier than others, and finding the right friends will have a bigger impact on your university experience than anything else. The time you spend at uni is unlike anything, so you really need to make the most of out, but it’s hard to do that without the right social network around you.
1. Always Say Yes
Have you ever seen the movie Yes Man? It’s probably one of Jim Carey’s best works, but I’ve just looked and it only has a 46% rating on Rotten Tomatoes! What? Maybe I need to watch it again.
Sorry, got a bit lost there. The idea of Yes Man is that he literally just says “yes” to each and every thing he’s asked. Now, I’m not suggesting you do the same, as from what I remember it gets him into a definite NSFW scene with an old lady, but I am suggesting that you say yes more.
It can be easy to stay in your own little bubble if you let yourself, but just saying yes to more social occasions can mean that you strengthen the friendships you already have as well as make new ones. As I was once told, “you never remember the nights you stayed in”, which I thought was pretty solid advice until I realised that I never remember the nights I went out, either…
2. Get Out of Your Comfort Zone
There are going to be socials that you are less than excited for. I remember being invited to pyjama parties and almost damaging my vision with the sheer strength of my eye roll. Yet, sometimes the times you don’t think are going to be great end up being the best of all.
When I say get out of your comfort zone, I don’t mean going to things that you know are going to make you incredibly uncomfortable. I mean taking more risks and learning to live a little. Sometimes playing it safe isn’t the best decision, and after all, if you try something new and don’t like it, then at least you can cross that off. It’s much better knowing that you don’t like something than just thinking you don’t.
3. Balance Your Work and Social Life
At the end of the day, we’re all here to get a good education and leave with something that’ll hopefully bring home the bacon when we’re older, but we’re also here for what’s known as “the university experience”. These two things might seem opposing, but they can easily go hand in hand.
The last thing you want is to become stressed out because you’re sacrificing one for the other; going on a night out knowing you have a deadline coming up or staying in to study even though the exam is weeks away.
As soon as you know when your deadlines or exams are, then work out a study schedule for each week. If you know you’re going to be out on Saturday night and hungover on Sunday, then spend Saturday during the day studying. A lot of stress can simply be eliminated by planning and preparation and yet, nobody seems to do it. Sure it might take five minutes, but that’s invaluable in the long-run. You can even make the schedule every Sunday night when you have a clearer idea of what the week ahead has in store.
Equally, never let someone make you feel bad for wanting to do well at uni. There will be times where you want to study and work whilst others are going out day and night, and that’s totally fine.
You do you. Be yourself, make an effort, and just focus on enjoying yourself.